In honor of my father on his 90th birthday, we threw a big party.
Words were said and things were done.
I read a couple of articles I wrote to celebrate the occasion.
I've posted them here for the enjoyment of anyone that missed the event.
10 things I love about dad
Says what he thinks.
When they zig he zags.
Courage for the adventure
Strives for perfect
Moves toward the battle
Makes it happen
I've Become My Father
I don't know exactly when if happened. But one day I looked in the mirror and
saw my dad looking back. This really shocked me!
As a child my mother used to say that I was a carbon-copy and something about an
acorn. This was appalling to me since I am nothing like him.
As a young man I vowed that I would be completely different and held him up as
an example of what I did want to become. All his dysfunctions were on display
and acted as a cautionary tale of what I did not want for my life.
But at 50 I had a startling revelation. The man in the mirror is my dad ... not
exactly but close enough for discomfort.
Let's review the checklist.
Traveled throughout the world - check
Fascinated by other cultures - check
Lives in a world of ideas - check
Writes books - check
Teaches college - check
Obsessed with completing the current project - check
Constantly reading (over 1000 books read) - check
Driven to achieve - unlimited ambition - check
Chooses task over people - check
Extremely opinionated with a high trust for his own judgement - check
Be in control of everything - check
Finds people generally foolish and irritating - check
Proud of personal accomplishment - check
Struggle to trust others - check
Willing to reject those who offend - check
Regularly top of the class - check
Smartest guy in the room - check
Struggles with aspects of autism - check
Makes rules to manage everything in life - check
Organized and clear thinking - check
Articulate when presenting ideas - check
Plans ahead for all contingencies - check
Despises fanatics and extremists - check
Never backs down from a fight when he knows he's right - check
Boiling emotions beneath the surface, but fears expressing them - check
Must be in charge - check
Fearful of a dark future closing in - check
Perfectionist - check
Rather be respected and admired than adored - check
Desire to be benevolent dictator - check
Wants to make the world better -check
There are a lot of specific details in this list. I have never met another person that is as much like me.
All of my best traits come from my father, as do all of my worst traits.
As I look in the mirror I accept it for what it is ... HERITAGE.